“I wanted to learn if the mechanics of loss and grief were significantly different in other people. Or do we instead all just have different names and objects tagged to the various holes in hearts, with the nature of the holes themselves being more or less the same? And is there a way that we as a society remember lost things can tell us something about how we live now? Could these holes somehow make a map of absences that would describe the territory that encompasses both ‘all there is’ and ‘all that might have been?’”〔